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How do you controll and discipline successfully a strong-willed child?

Another poster had asked, why do some parents allow their children to run around restaurants like idiots. Below is my honest answer. Since I’m putting myself out there, here it goes. What are the techniques, parenting skills, and methods you use to successfully teach your young child (under 2 years old) how to behave? I want more answers than just it’s always the parents fault or lack of parenting skills.

Here’s a link to the question (not sure if I did the link right): http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkSekapqElu5UcHDcp.7EM3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100122081933AAPpSC9&show=7#profile-info-oO4TUkVkaa

My answer:

When I had just my daughter, I was on your side. My daughter would sit politely and eat. Now that I have my wild son who won’t sit still, I give up once in a while and let him run around our table, or if needed, followed by a family member, or we take him outside to run around on the sidewalk or in the lobby or something. I sometimes just want to eat a little bit of food before it gets cold; I’m only human and since I don’t get out much, I wish I could enjoy my meal just once in a while. My son is 21 months old and I do teach him but he’s still a boy. He threw a spoon the other day over towards another table with an elderly couple eating dinner. They gave me the dirtiest look ever. I immediately apologized to them and then I kept correcting my son and trying to figure out how to teach not to do this but since he’s young and stubborn, I’m having a hard time. I used to think I was a great parent when I had just my daughter. Now, I realize that girls are much different than boys and that my daughter was just really a good baby. I’m now that mom at Target that everyone looks at and wonders “why can’t she control her son.” I used to be the other mom staring at that “bad mom.” I now relate and know that those “bad moms” are really doing all they can. However, with the restaurant situation, my husband and I are trying to avoid restaurants for now and do take our son out to keep him from disturbing others.

Edit: I’m open to suggestions. I work very, very hard at being a good mom and constantly providing structure, rules and discipline for my kids. We go to church and they know right from wrong. My son is 21 months which I think is still very young. My daughter is 5 so obviously she would never be running around a restaurant. I’m constantly correcting my son, telling him not to throw things and I’m not a “very young mom” (I’m 31). I’m educated and I work from home doing legal proofreading for the courts. I would very much appreciate “positive” and “polite” advice from those. Regarding the “boy” thing, I grew up with a sister and was always around girls. My mother-in-law says that our son is just like how my husband was at that age, very active, to put it kindly. I never want to be rude to others around us and do our best to control our son or take him out as I said. I always give a big tip to the servers if my son makes a mess and/or I clean up the mess to the best of my ability before leaving. With my daughter, I am always complimented on how well behaved she is and how she always says please and thank you. So, obviously, I’m doing something right. Thanks!

Edit #2: I don’t want to be attacked but I know I’m putting myself out there so, every parenting technique I try and used successfully with my daughter, is not working with my son. Boy excuse aside, he is a strong-willed child and if he was a girl, he would still be strong-willed. I’ve tried and continue to try time-out, light spanking (not to provide pain but an action to go along with the “no”), verbally correcting with a firm voice, providing positive distractions, and removing him from situations altogether, etc. So, I would love some other ideas. I’m with him 24/7 and try to not let an opportunity for correction, direction, and discipline to go by because I know that if I’m not consistent, how can I expect him to be. I know I’m not alone in this boat by talking to other moms too but I am more than willing to listen to real tips and advice, not just that it’s always the parents’ fault.

So, once again, if you have the answer, please share it with me: What is your favorite or best method for teaching your young, strong-willed child to behave?
I’m just having fun here, which I hope others can see, but in response:

Yes, I agree that it can be dangerous to let the kids run around servers with hot food, which I do not allow of course for my child’s own safety and the server’s safety as well.

I still haven’t read Dr. Dobson’s book but I can’t think of a better term than “strong-willed” for my son. Maybe I should read the book first. Ha ha!

moving away from home for the first time.?

My friend Jessica decided that we are going to get an apartment together in June.

We are both 18, and are both currently working.

What are some important things to keep in mind when moving out, and do you have any advice?

I really want to make this work as successfully as I can.

Any advice on how to make everything work with splitting the prices on everything.. Food, electric, necessities, and all that?

thank you so much.

My landlord is preventing me from hooking up cable for wireless Internet purposes- what can I do?!?

I booked an install with Shaw cable in order to fix myself up with wireless Internet, which I am in dire need of since I am now working from home. Upon arrival, the install guy informed me that the cable box is pad-locked away in our basement in some kind of cupboard, and that he would need my landlord to unlock it for him before he could get to work.

My landlord has changed his story three times, causing Shaw to visit on three different occasions without successfully hooking anything up. At first he told me and the installer in person that he didn’t have the key on him; the second time he phoned me an hour before Shaw was to arrive and said he couldn’t help us because he was busy that night; and now he is claiming that he doesn’t have the key at all- and that SHAW has it! I have been dealing with a very helpful supervisor at Shaw who is sympathetic to my situation and has re-booked my install appointments quickly and efficiently- but they are getting frustrated, as I am, too, of course. How do I amend this situation immediately? And what are my rights as a renter in this situation??

How do I get my psp to work on my home network?

I have everything set up and the psp is indeed recognizing the signal from my router, but before it can log on successfully it reads ‘error timed out’ or something to that effect.

How do you go back to my brothers, and should I?

Sorry, it is very long but not sure how to make it shorter.

I faced huge financial problems after my parents passed away. After some years I started earning so much that I had not even imagined earlier. I got a house of my own, where I lived with my brothers.

I explained to my brothers that they must start earning. I did everything possible to help them get a job. But they were not even trying to get a job.

One day I gave them time for one year and told them to get job within that time or else, they would not be able to live with me. But they did not take it seriously. After one year, I myself left the house, left my job and got another job and started living elsewhere (on rent). Before leaving, I made arrangements so that my brothers would get enough money in their bank accounts so that they would be able to live comfortable (but not luxurious) life for minimum one year. I kept only so much of money in my own bank account, which would last for only two months (and that too if I lived very simple life). I took only a few clothes of mine, in a bag, with me and left the house, with all its items, for my brothers.

After some weeks, I sent them emails (without revealing my identity) pretending to be the owner of some company, which needed employees, who could work from home. After some email exchanges they agreed. The jobs I gave them were such that the knowledge and the experience that they gained by completing the works would help them in their career. They had to send me the completed work by email attachments. When they made mistake, then I used to point out faults and give them some hints, and in some cases, referred them to some books and web pages from where they could get more help. When they completed the work successfully, then I used to deposit money in their accounts (as their salaries).

One day I emailed them that their services were no longer required. After that, I created a website and emailed them (through yet another email id) the description of the website. I sent them the emails as if I was advertising the website to them. I found out about some job openings for them in some companies and mentioned about the openings in that website. I also wrote some Q&A’s in that website explaining what kind of questions may be asked in tests and interviews for those jobs and how to answer those. I had to do that for a few months and a day came when both of my brothers got jobs.

After several months, I got emails from my brothers in which they had written that, although I did nothing for them, they were able to get very good jobs on their own and they also wrote how they had got increment in their salaries. They also wrote how much they were earning. I was overjoyed to read that and after some days of hesitation, I went to them.

They were very angry on seeing me because they thought that I had come back to them only because I had got greedy on coming to know about their income. Then I explained to them how I used to send them emails in some other names. But they said that there was no need for me to do that, and they could have easily got good jobs without my help. They did not want to live with me or even keep any contact with me. So I again left that house.

But I often get concerned about them because when I went to them, I found that they were spending almost whole of their income in unnecessary things, without thinking about future, and also because they are younger to me. So I want to know:-

How do I continue to guide them? Should I even guide them or let them learn on their own? Should I again make an attempt to be in touch with them? If yes, then how?
Sorry, the title of the question should read “How do I …” instead of “How do you …”

Actually I do not need any financial help from them or anybody. It is true that I am earning far less than I wa earning earlier but that is by choice. Now I work longer hours than earlier but my income is much less because earlier I was in a very senior position in software industry and now I mostly do teaching of various subjects. Even now I keep getting job offers from various software companies, and two companies, where I worked earlier, emailed me to join them back and offered very high salary.
But, my interest is in teaching field now, so I thanked them but politely refused the offer.
I am a male.

Again, shafted by Microsoft?

Pardon me, for being the uniformed idiot, the one that didn’t want to spend the hour-and-a-half reading the fine print. I signed up for Xbox LIVE about two years ago. I was visiting my mom in Las Vegas and decided that I wanted to play on Xbox live for a week until I went back home in the middle of nowhere (therefore, no internet). I selected the option to sign up for one month at 7.99. Ok, sounds good to me. The service was mediocre, I enjoyed it for a week, and continued with my every so busy life. About two months ago, I’m reviewing my credit card charges and notice a withdrawl from Xbox live. WTH? I thought maybe someone else was using my account or credit card on file to play so I investigated the matter a little bit further. I finally found out that the one month I signed up for, just as the fine print stated, would revert to a month-to-month service. Microsoft had extracted about $160 from my measly grocery boy job in a two year span. Unfortunately, the obvious choice of canceling service isn’t as easy as the press of a button, oh no! Maybe being hassled by customer service outsourced in India will change your mind about canceling your membership. Whatever works, you greedy cocks. Anyway I call and find out that I need information that I don’t have, and at the same exact time, I run into some debt and my bank account stays at the minimum balance for about two months. I thought that conveniently Microsoft would simply not charge me (because they were unable to) until I took the time to call them and formally revoke my membership. I call them today and the lady tells me that my service is suspended, and consequently I owe them $15 on back membership and they will file for collections if it is not paid promptly. By the way, no refund. I love you Microsoft. I hope your continuous sales model does great things for you. I hope you choke.

So my question for you is: What is your opinion on this situation? At best could you back me up and boycott these people? At worst can you at least call a foul blow.

PS – I know I really don’t have a case here, but this is unethical business, even if it is legal.

I’d like to work from home, but don’t know where to start.?

I have 1 child and would like to have a second. I work full time but really want to be able to stay home with my kids. But we depend on my income too much for me to quite. I would like to find something to work from home to help bring in that income. I live to far in the country to do any at home babysitting. I do have a computer with internet but I don’t have any college or much knowledge of how to do web pages, java, or anything like that. Please help with some ideas.

about the work from home jobs how do you know if their scams?Do you realy make as much as they say?

i currently work fulltime and have 2 kids iwould rather be home with them if their was something i could do from home and make as much as i do now. but i dont want to be tied down at home to where it does not make the difference that i left my office to be home.i just want to have money and stay home with my kids. what mom doesnt

HELP! My kids are home from school for 2 weeks and I need ideas to keep them entertained!?

My daughters are ages 9 & 12, and today is their 1st day of no school for 2 weeks.I work from home, and my husband works 10 hour days, so I’m at home with the girls this morning and they’re already saying they’re bored!
They like to watch movies, but I don’t want them doing that for 2 weeks straight. I’ve been trying to think of some things we can do together that don’t cost anything (or much) during the day, like baking cookies, starting new traditions for the holidays, etc. but can’t think of much.
They already have their chores finished for the day, so I need some ideas on how to spend the next 2 weeks…ideas that will make their holiday break memorable.
Thanks to all in advance!!
For queen corvette: Your heart is cold! I had children because I love kids…

I’m getting a lot of “dress Up, cinderella, etc” ideas, but my girls are a bit old for that type of thing.And, shopping…it’s Christmas time, which means cash is short and in less than a week they’ll have new things to open anyway.
I’m looking for traditions to start more than anything…Thanks!!

Could anyone tell me if an work from home job is a good opportunity?

I am currently working a full time job as a daycare teacher and i been looking for opportunities to spend more time with my kids and family. Well I came across the website(homejobgroup.com) and it was stating how you can work from home. It sounds like a good opportunity but with so many scams you do not know what is real or not. Please HELP ME!!!!!